Even though wedding planning has been stressful and frustrating at times, I have this feeling that I will have some withdrawal when it's all over. No more excuses to go on the Knot or Wedding Bee. All the most fun things are finished; now it's just boring things like timelines and confirmations. I guess I can focus on decorating my house for awhile if I want a creative outlet. In the end, I'll be with Matt all the time and that's what I've cared about more than the wedding of course. Only 41 days left. I cannot believe it is so close! I've only been waiting like 6 years for this. It'll be so fun to see everything come together!
I remember the first time Matt mentioned marriage. I was a freshman sitting in my tiny dorm all alone, and I had just watched Pearl Harbor. I was talking to him on AIM and all of a sudden he said
Matt: "I have a question, but don't freak out ok? It's just a question."
Me: "Okay"
Matt: "Do you think that one day, I mean when we are all done with school and have jobs, do you think we would get married?"
Me:" That question doesn't freak me out, I've thought of that before. Yeah, I think maybe we will"
He probably shouldn't have said anything for a couple of years, we were nowhere near ready! But it sure made me happy back then :) It was the first time that getting married felt like a reality to me.
It turns out Matt will have a couple months of summer break after all. So we can still go on some kind of honeymoon. Probably a road trip, that's my favorite kind of vacation. I have no desire to leave the country right now, I wouldn't feel safe. Just somewhere far away from Nebraska.
Sunday, April 24, 2011
Wednesday, April 20, 2011
Dear John letter from the Woman I was named after
In case anyone wonders what my mother's family is like, here you go. The family feud started at Christmas and snowballed just in time for my wedding.
45 Days til my wedding:
Hi Julie,
I am writing to you with heavy heart and great deal of sadness. I will not be coming to your shower or your wedding. I am so sorry that you had to get caught up in everything that is going on and that at the happiest time in your life you have to suffer the consequences of other people's actions. I truely can't get past the vicious, vile email that Scott wrote. That and the fact that everytime I am around your mom we get into a negative conversation about family, has led me to believe they can't be a part of my life. Since I feel that way I know you won't want me in your life. Julie, I just don't have room in my life for such ugliness and hatred. If I thought I could help the situation I would do everything in my power, but at least at the present time there is just too much rage.
I hope you have a wonderful wedding and a great new life. Losing each other is a terrible price for both us us to have to pay and again I'm so sorry.
If you ever have no where else to turn I will always be here for you, but for now I understand that you have to put your loyalties with your family.
I will always love you.
If you choose to show this email to your parents please let them know that I will not be opening any email or text from them or taking any calls. I have no desire to get into any back and forth comments. This is between you and me.
I love you.
Aunt Julie
*Yes I am one to air out my dirty laundry. Tune in later when I will go back to my normal blog atmosphere.
*Side note: I just read my dad's email for the first time. There is nothing vile about it, he was just being honest and I thought it was a pretty calm, factual manner.
45 Days til my wedding:
Hi Julie,
I am writing to you with heavy heart and great deal of sadness. I will not be coming to your shower or your wedding. I am so sorry that you had to get caught up in everything that is going on and that at the happiest time in your life you have to suffer the consequences of other people's actions. I truely can't get past the vicious, vile email that Scott wrote. That and the fact that everytime I am around your mom we get into a negative conversation about family, has led me to believe they can't be a part of my life. Since I feel that way I know you won't want me in your life. Julie, I just don't have room in my life for such ugliness and hatred. If I thought I could help the situation I would do everything in my power, but at least at the present time there is just too much rage.
I hope you have a wonderful wedding and a great new life. Losing each other is a terrible price for both us us to have to pay and again I'm so sorry.
If you ever have no where else to turn I will always be here for you, but for now I understand that you have to put your loyalties with your family.
I will always love you.
If you choose to show this email to your parents please let them know that I will not be opening any email or text from them or taking any calls. I have no desire to get into any back and forth comments. This is between you and me.
I love you.
Aunt Julie
*Yes I am one to air out my dirty laundry. Tune in later when I will go back to my normal blog atmosphere.
*Side note: I just read my dad's email for the first time. There is nothing vile about it, he was just being honest and I thought it was a pretty calm, factual manner.
Tuesday, April 12, 2011
Matt Can Grill and I Can Bake Pies!
I finally realized I am addicted to online shopping. It's fun! It's convenient! It's like getting presents all the time in the mail! Except I paid for them. Maybe Matt will have to limit my internet time when we get married. Getting packages reminds of of Christmas time when I was a kid in England. It gives me the warm and fuzzies.
Oh my gosh I just realized, there has to be a way for me to get a baby picture of Matt on here. He was ADORABLE. We are getting our slideshow ready and they are in my possession. Be afraid Matt.
Last weekend Matt and I went to dinner and a movie with Chris and Allie. Chinese food rules! I can't get enough of fried rice. We saw "Your Highness" which was hilarious. I just love Zooey Deschanel :)
Before the movie we registered at our last place. We got there at 5:30, listened to a little speech and left at about 7. How many things did we register for? About 7 if you include the pillows that go with our bedspread. It took more than half the time to agree on a bedspread and Matt gave me hell about what we chose because
Matt: "I don't want to sleep on those little pillows"
Me: "You don't sleep in those pillows, you throw them on the floor"
Matt: "well what's the point then?"
Me: "they are pretty! and presentable. Picture your bed Matthew. What does it look like? It's not even made is it?"
Matt: "um...probably not"
So I won that round, but he preferred another set that looked a little ghetto to me and I did not like the huge buttons on it. We chose a red and white one with some sort of pretty decor on it and some super cute pillows. We couldn't even agree on bathroom accessories still. Our tastes are completely different and I'm having a hard time NOT picking blue for every room. Blue chairs in the living room, blue dishes, blue china, blue towels...but at least our bedroom has red right? I figure I can do different accent colors. We got a lot done, I started getting my materials to make my ring bearer pillows! One will look similar to this:
Martha Stewart!
As I write, the children are screaming upstairs. Only 53 more days and I can have some peace! I love them, but I also love what little sanity I have left.
Oh and we found an apartment. It has a washer/dryer in the unit so I will be very happy. Matt can grill and I can bake pies and it will be so cute. At least until the honeymoon phase is over. Then it will just be very adult. All I need is for friends to move into the apartment across from me and it will be just like a sitcom. Anyone?
Oh my gosh I just realized, there has to be a way for me to get a baby picture of Matt on here. He was ADORABLE. We are getting our slideshow ready and they are in my possession. Be afraid Matt.
Last weekend Matt and I went to dinner and a movie with Chris and Allie. Chinese food rules! I can't get enough of fried rice. We saw "Your Highness" which was hilarious. I just love Zooey Deschanel :)
Before the movie we registered at our last place. We got there at 5:30, listened to a little speech and left at about 7. How many things did we register for? About 7 if you include the pillows that go with our bedspread. It took more than half the time to agree on a bedspread and Matt gave me hell about what we chose because
Matt: "I don't want to sleep on those little pillows"
Me: "You don't sleep in those pillows, you throw them on the floor"
Matt: "well what's the point then?"
Me: "they are pretty! and presentable. Picture your bed Matthew. What does it look like? It's not even made is it?"
Matt: "um...probably not"
So I won that round, but he preferred another set that looked a little ghetto to me and I did not like the huge buttons on it. We chose a red and white one with some sort of pretty decor on it and some super cute pillows. We couldn't even agree on bathroom accessories still. Our tastes are completely different and I'm having a hard time NOT picking blue for every room. Blue chairs in the living room, blue dishes, blue china, blue towels...but at least our bedroom has red right? I figure I can do different accent colors. We got a lot done, I started getting my materials to make my ring bearer pillows! One will look similar to this:
Martha Stewart! As I write, the children are screaming upstairs. Only 53 more days and I can have some peace! I love them, but I also love what little sanity I have left.
Oh and we found an apartment. It has a washer/dryer in the unit so I will be very happy. Matt can grill and I can bake pies and it will be so cute. At least until the honeymoon phase is over. Then it will just be very adult. All I need is for friends to move into the apartment across from me and it will be just like a sitcom. Anyone?
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